Carnival November 2008: Parenting

Welcome to the November 30, 2008 edition of recovery from childhood sexual abuse. This edition is dedicated to issues of parenting. Some really interesting posts have been submitted - If you have any comments to the submitted contributions, please comment freely to what you read here.

How Often Does Child Sexual Abuse Get Reported posted at Judy Wright. Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse victims never report the crime or get help in coming to grips with this life-changing trauma. They move into adulthood with a broken heart and low self esteem. Much misbehavior and acting out can be traced to an incident which occurred which left the child feeling confused, betrayed and angry.

Nursing is Not Good for Me Sometimes too posted at ~Enola~. Four years ago, I was unsure how breastfeeding would go with my daughter. It went great. Very few problems. I often joked I could feed a third-world nation. She had a bit of an issue taking a bottle, but we quickly surpassed that hurdle. I nursed her for twenty-six months. I take great pride in that accomplishment. For once, my body didn't let me down. It did what it was supposed to do. While not easy, I hung in there. Of course, this was all pre-therapy, pre-dealing-with-the-abuse.

Mums Raising Boys - Information for New Zealand Parents posted at Sandi Paterson. When I was pregnant, I secretly wanted a girl. I’d give people the standard line, “Oh, as long as it’s healthy, I don’t mind,” but inside I figured raising a girl on my own would be easier than with a boy. I don’t think that’s necessarily true any more; in fact, most of the young boys I know seem a lot less demanding than my own little madam. But it is true that for many single mothers, the idea of raising a son carries its own set of worries.

Sexual Abuse Survivors: Parenting Model posted at SEXUAL ABUSE HELP. Don't miss this video clip. It shows the basic principle of using non-violent communication with children. The technique used is so simple yet so powerful. It will help you to connect with your child without being patronising, controlling, or demanding. A must view!

Techniques For Building Happy Children posted at Gudrun Frerichs, PhD. Evolution has seen to it that when young organisms are safe, they feel positive emotion, and they will reach outward and broaden their resources by exploring and playing” (Authentic Happiness, page 209). So, an important part of raising children is making them feel safe.

Anger posted at My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality Disorder. I'm only beginning to realize how really angry I am at my daughter. The more I learn about her using her childhood (that would be me, the multiple mother) to justify her victim behavior the angrier I get. Instead of being responsible for her own behavior or even being angry at the sleaze of a father who molested her, she's blaming me for her life as a victim ...

How to listen posted at Imaginif. If you care about your children and if you care about protecting all children from harm, then it is time to listen: to actively listen with both ears and to begin using your mouth as a change agent rather than a constipator. In Australia alone, a child is abused every 13 minutes. In some countries, up to 60% of children are traumatised by the time they are three years old. Our children are at risk of ongoing psychological and physical harm and it is time to listen to them.

So Sexy So Soon. What parents can do to protect their kids posted at imaginif. For children today, learning about sex too soon isn’t the issue. The problem is the synthetic and cynical source of a child’s information. Popular culture and technology inundate our children with an onslaught of mixed messages at earlier ages than ever and without the emotional sophistication to understand what they are doing and seeing, kids are getting into increasing trouble emotionally and socially.

Mother’s Talk To Your Daughters posted at The People Behind My Eyes. Parenting is a huge, huge responsibility that sometimes gets passed onto schools and day care programs. But in day care programs and in school the child does not get the individual attention they need to fully understand themselves. If a parent is there for his or her child they can make sure the child understands. Age appropriate knowledge will help the child grow into an informed adult.

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Carnival October 2008: What helped - what didn't

Welcome to the October 31, 2008 edition of recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Inspite the fact that the carnival site was frequently off line this month there have been some brilliant submissions for the reader to enjoy!

What I Learned at Timberlawn posted at Secret Shadows. This blog post describes the experiences of attending an intensive therapy program at Timberlawn hospital. The reader learns about the struggle as well as the benefits of the writer's stay.

Self Injury: The Misery, Hurt, and Confusion Behind the Pain posted at Secret Shadows. Self injury is openly discusses in this personal record that exlores self injury as of re-encactment of the abuse but also as a form of emotion regulation.

Lessons learned in a therapuetic relationship gone wrong posted at Emily First Girl: .............DID ..........Multiplicity. Often clients don't know what to expect when starting therapy and what questions to ask. This post benefits from the clear vision of hind sight and gives suggestions of what to asks the therapist before starting therapy.

How to Integrate Animal Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Alter Parts | eHow.com posted at FaithAllen. It is not unusual for person's diagnosed with DID have alter parts that are animals. This post discusses the purpose of these parts and makes suggestions of how integrtion of these parts could take place.

DID And The Body: Driving A Courtesy Car posted at Multiple Voices. By using the metaphor of 'driving a courtesy car' this blog post discusses the relationship many multiples (sexual abuse survivors diagnosed with DID) have with their body.

Deserved Rape? posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor's zigzag journey into the open. We have here a thorough exploration of who is responsible for rape. Is there such a thing as deserved rape? Don't miss this read!

artconstellation: UNABLE TO WAIT UNTIL I GET HOME I STOP AT THE LIBRARY SO THAT I MAY PURGE ONTO MY BLOG. posted at artconstellation. How to deal with the memories of sexual abuse that have surfaced after a therapy session? This post may not have answers but describes the struggle and the decision to grow stronger and move on.

Losing Time posted at Here and Now ~*~ 4 Angel~*~. It's often hard for people to understand the experiences of switching in the life of multiples. This blog post give a moving description of 'experiencing losing time'.

On Giving Up and Getting Up posted at Survivors Can Thrive!. This blog post describes the journey from wanting to give up to making the decision to get up continue growing and healing.

Holly Ord presents Hounddog posted at Healing Yourself Heals the World, saying, "Hounddog is a movie that exudes hope and infuses survivors with a resonating voice that says 'I understand, it isn't your fault, now take back what is yours.'"

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Carnival September 2008: General

Welcome to the September 30, 2008 edition of recovery from childhood sexual abuse. I am excited about the support this project has received and about the great submissions people have made.

Attachment and the Therapeutic Relationship posted at Secret Shadows, saying, "This article was written by myself as a survivor with DID. Professionally speaking, I also have a Masters Degree in Special Education: Emotional/Behavioral Disorders."

Dreaming in DID©: Using DID to accept your self-worth « Emily First Girl: ………….DID ……….Multiplicity posted at Emily First Girl: .............DID ..........Multiplicity, saying, "After a lifetime of confusing but incredibly vivid and detailed dreams, I learned that the characters in my dreams were all different parts of me. Understanding how these parts of myself (alters) helped and hindered me in dreams gave me incredible insight into how these parts contribute to me in my real life. When I lose contact with my selves, my dreams help me reconnect and understand."

The Force that Drives You to Speak posted at Healing Yourself Heals the World, saying, "Healing Yourself Heals the World is a brand new site that will serve as a personal account of the healing journey from child abuse and childhood sexual assault. There is a force within survivors that pushes them to speak and not only will this site be a personal account of the healing journey, but hopefully it will also serve as a place of encouragement and motivation to other survivors and aid in their own healing journey. Thank you."

It's Complicated.......... posted at My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality DisorderI found this post showed clearly the difficulty Mulitples have with relationships. Here an excerpt: Or maybe I should say that I'm complicated. Being a multiple with my feelings walled off into little compartments can make life a bit confusing for me sometimes. However, I'm guessing it's not nearly as confusing for me as it is for the people who live with me.
Abusers Deny or Minimize the Abuse posted at SANCTUARY FOR THE ABUSEDExerpt: Not all abusers are dysfunctional. Many of them are pillars of society. Abusers come in all shapes and sizes: successful professionals, or peripatetic con-artists, affluent or poor, young or old, well-educated or dropouts. There is no profile of the "typical abuser".
How sex predators groom - posted at Imaginif Child Protection became Serious BusinessExerpt: Grooming is a process of desensitisation that sex predators use on children to prepare and trick them into accommodating sexual abuse. Grooming can take months, or days, and can occur on the internet, over the phone or in...
Multiple Voices: Finding the Right Therapist - posted at Multiple VoicesExcerpt: How do you know that you have found the right therapist or counsellor? Wouldn’t it be ideal to have a check-list that you can tick off when you set out to find a therapist? Sadly, it doesn’t work like this.
Good Fairy Helps Incest Survivors Forget Til It's Safe by Incest Survivor - posted at Wedding Pranks. Excerpt: Finally, from the corners where the silence still remains, there came the urgency to go to a mountaintop and scream out the whole truth.
QuantumShift.tv - Holly's fight for Justice video posted at Holly Fightforjustice DeSimone.Check out Holly's video about her fight for justice. Find out about Holly and her journey from overcoming rape and fighting relentlessly to get her perpetrator behind bars! Not to be missed! Gudrun
Dr. Jerry Mungadze, Mungadze Trauma Programs - posted at Yvie Stewart. Dissociative Identity Disorder: Triumph over Life's Greates Challenge. EFor a young child, life is viewed in simplistic terms. A loving family, a safe environment, food and shelter, playing with friends, and .
Courage in Patience - posted at Courage in Patience by Author Beth Fehlbaum. Excerpt: Ashley Nicole Asher’s life changes forever on the night her mother, Cheryl, meets Charlie Baker. Within a year of her mother’s marriage to Charlie, typical eight-year-old Ashley’s life becomes a nightmare of sexual abuse and
Read about the new book "Beyond Tears" posted at Lynn Tolson. Surviving domestic violence and sexual abuse, Lynn Tolson tells her story in the book, Beyond the Tears, in hopes to help other victims understand they can live a normal, happy, life.
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